Most of the couple that want to “upgrade” their relationship into the next step or we call Marriage, may be through a phase of "premarital syndrome” or PMS in a short form. Phase in which you will feel doubts, freak out, afraid and electron everywhere. All that happens in this phase to make you think again and again, "Do I have to do this?” or “Is this that I want?” or even worse “Is it the right things to do?"
Some people said that this upgrade is a Big things, or in game we can said that “Major Patch” that will change your gameplay, experience and content forever, because you can’t down grade this Patch. The only way if you can’t or doesn't want to play it anymore, whether broken software or missing some important file, then Remove it or Uninstall.
Can not be denied that PMS can take you on a huge negative thoughts. However, all the phase before the wedding is certainly going to give a new lesson for you and in the future lives. Because somehow you’ll see how bad the situation will be, at this phase there is not only both of you will be tested, but there is an additional player on the field that called “Family”, (oh man I love the part when they start to make some move on this phase hahahaha), but it wasn’t too bad at all, depends on how you handle them. There is some of PMS situation that might be happens around that phase.
Is He / She the one ?
This question often arises in the minds around couple. Not to mention that now a lot of couples who divorce because of this question keep hanging around their mind, plus the emergence of a sense of wonder, "Maybe there's a man / woman who is much better, and good looking out there”.
Trust me, you'll stay awake all night long with this doubts. To overcome these doubts, try to think carefully before you change your mind or even cancel the wedding. Make a list of criteria (not literally write it down, just make your own standard) for your version of the ideal partner, then match on with your partner. If you already meet the 50%, meaning your partner are included in your version of the ideal one. Remember, nothing is perfect in this world, and even if your partner is not as you would expect, but who knows it turns out he's the best for you, sometimes what you want is not what you need :)
Choo Chooo Tension Train is coming, Next destination to Patience City and Tolerance Land.
As I said before, the additional player will start to join the game, and yes more player mean more voice and head to be heard of and the tension will occur in the family and the couple before the wedding day. If you experience this tension, do not think this marriage is not smooth mean your marriage is not blessed. Things like this normally happens before the day of H.
All these preparations was never be easy to make everyone tense, and everyone would be selfish even blame for a simple mistake. If your partner is bad qualities appear before the wedding, think that your partner is tense, as strained with you or maybe more tense. However, different if you change your behavior until hitting partner or other outrageous attitude, perhaps you should reconsider this marriage, but again its back to both of you how to deal with it. Attention, understanding, great amount of tolerance will be required in this phase.
Sayonara Freedom
Doubts often arise from themselves, one of them is not ready to assume the status of “married". Worried after marriage then your freedom is lost, it can not spend the salary for personal gain (bye bye GunPla, Scuba Pro and LEGO), not to mention the thought of losing your admirers. (somehow you doesn’t look cool anymore for them after you get married lol).
Throw away those thoughts. Married life is going to change you and your partner, partial loss of freedom for the task and due of new responsibilities. And do not be afraid to lose of fans, because you already have a partner who will admire you for life, not to mention the beloved children who will added to your loyal admirers too.
After all look at the positive side, then you are not alone anymore in this life, There will be someone that can be a best friend in resolving all issues, accompanied in fun and sorrow. Married is not about make yourself complete with the other one, you already complete as a human itself, but married will make a new / add purpose in your life, new goals, achievement and for sure a better life.
Not everyone agree about this opinion, some say that married is an option some say is a must but not now or maybe some say "I just want to get married as soon as possible", and many more.
Well I’m not married yet, so its kinda funny to read or listen from the one who never know how it feels like (maybe I’m just drunk or something).
y.m.p
